This post seems to be hard for me to put out there and I’m not sure why. My name is legally all changed back to Stephenie Jones. Driver’s license, social security, at my workplace. I still need to go talk to my bank, but the super important stuff is back to Jones. Right now, I have the name that I want to develop my professional identity under. But it makes me kind of mad that I had to do all this. I’m not even mad at the ex. I don’t care about him, and haven’t for a while. I care more about my name! I changed it, thinking that I was doing the right thing when I got married. That’s what I was supposed to do right? Change my name. I left Jones behind and that was hard for me! Really hard! And I know about one other person who understands how I feel about it, and that’s my sister. I even kept my middle name and just let my maiden name go. I let something I was incredibly proud of go… for what? Tradition?? Lord have mercy that seems dumb to me now. I don’t really have much more to say about the subject, just that I’m back to me. My name is the name that’s on my BA diploma and my Tech ring, it’s the name I was born with. At least if I die tomorrow (hopefully not) I’ll be buried as a Jones.
*Disclaimer – This is not to say that if I ever remarry, I won’t take on his name in some way. I’ll just find a way to keep Jones as well. I don’t really feel comfortable letting it go again.